Relationships

I say the same thing five different ways before I finally know how I actually feel. For a long time I thought this made me dramatic, or needy, or a bit too much. Turns out it's just how my ADHD brain thinks. Out loud.

Most of my friends have great jobs, live with their partners, and are doing the thing. I love them. But there's a specific kind of exhaustion that comes from being the one they check in on, the one who's still job hunting, the one who gets the soft voice and the head tilt. I'm tired of it. And I suspect I'm not the only one.

So… I’m dating a boy (I know, yuck). But it’s going surprisingly well! ADHD affects relationships in ways people don’t always talk about, from forgetfulness and hyperfixation to deep empathy and loyalty. Here’s my guide to dating someone with ADHD, the challenges, the quirks, and the unexpected magic.

For you it might be. We’ve got to stop putting so much pressure on women to be in relationships. Having a boyfriend who doesn’t add value to your life isn’t an achievement, it’s a drain. I’d rather be single than settle, we should reframe the “are you seeing anyone?” question and push confidence, happiness, and self-worth, which should come before any love story.