Is Being Single a Problem?

We Need to Stop Putting So Much Pressure on Romantic Relationships

Whatever happened to that “having a boyfriend is embarrassing” article? Because honestly… she was right. Having a boyfriend who doesn’t add to your life, make it better, or bring any real joy is, frankly, embarrassing.

I am so tired of hearing my amazing single friends get upset about being single, and equally tired of my happily coupled-up friends asking how my love life is going, as if that’s the only part of me worth checking in on. Yes, of course I want to find love. I want to find someone who adds real value to my life, who cares about me, wants to see me happy, and meets me halfway. But you know what I don’t want? To settle. To jump at the first man who shows a bit of interest and then pretend I’m blissfully happy just to fit some unspoken timeline.

Sure, it can be tough sometimes, when your friends are all partnered up, going on double dates, or bringing their other halves to parties. Of course there are moments I feel that pang of “I wish I had that too.” But here’s the thing: it’s taken me a long time to get to a place where I genuinely love who I am.

I know what I want, what I need, and what I deserve from a relationship, and I’m not going to compromise on that just to keep up.

We need to reframe the whole conversation. Stop asking women if they’ve met someone, or if they’ve been on any dates recently. Start asking if we’re happy, if we’re feeling confident, if we’re excited about our lives. Be the friends who fill each other’s cups, who remind each other how strong, capable, and fulfilled we can be on our own.

Because there’s a big difference between being alone and being lonely. And spoiler alert, a relationship won’t automatically fix that. The right person might complement your happiness, but they can’t create it for you.

So, I’m waiting. Not waiting in a sad, desperate way, but waiting patiently and confidently for someone worth it. Someone who matches my energy, loves loudly, shows up consistently, and sees me fully. Someone worthy of my life, my time, and my love.

And when that person comes along, believe me, you’ll be the first to know.